I've had to temporarily remove the tag-board, because I realised that everytime there's an error with the company server itself, the loading of my blog gets slowed down.
So since I assume you're more interested in reading the totally opinionated crap I write, rather than adding your own constructive comments on my writing, I removed the board.
Don't fret, though. If you feel that you absolutely MUST tell me the exact honest truth about my writing, please follow these instructions:
1) Click once on the Address bar.
2) Type http://www.ihateyourblog.com
3) Read the error message
4) Complain to someone else instead
Nah, just kidding. :p In place of the tagboard, use the comments function, by clicking on ".. pieces of crap". Blogger should carry you along from there.
And btw, Nihongo no leberu 2 wa owarimasu! Leberu 3 e itteimasu!
Monday, August 01, 2005
This newest post comes to you courtesy of an NTU computer at the main central library. Long live computer labs and free Internet access. :p Now if only they came with Firefox...
A few of my thoughts on the NTU campus:
- The new library I'm in now, directly above Canteen A, is one of the more better looking campus libraries I've seen around. :p Is there a current trend among the universities to compete for the better looking library? [the central library at NUS arts, after the renovation, was also stunning]
The interesting thing about the way it's been built is the half-circular design of the place. You walk in, and immediately you're standing above a half-moon valley, overlooking a whole prairie of computers, and people intent at work [or sleep, for some]
I walk to the 4th floor, along the moon, and through the windows on my left, I see the sea, [or more possibly, the Straits of Malacca] and what could possibly be Johor. It's definitely a better view than what NUS has to offer :S although most people here seem less interested in the view and more in their computer screens. Welcome to campus life.
And now, my current computer is at a window seat, though my view of Johor has been blocked by some very tall palm trees. Would almost feel like a beach, if not for the fact that I'm in an air-con library, and I have a pile of readings beside me. :s
- A few not so very nice words about their 3D club though...
NTU has a 3D animation club called NTU Siggraph, and usually Yenn and I would be interested, but I'm not too impressed by their management committee.
Erm, is it because the club is too new or something? Because I remember going for Imagereel, which was an exhibition of 3D animation, and not being very impressed with the way they organized the whole thing. Not to mention the commentators weren't too interesting, and Yenn wasn't impressed with the 3D shown, [too abstract and arty for her :p] so both of us overall weren't... well, impressed. :p
Then I went for another one they had at the library. Again, the speaker wasn't too interesting, though in this case, I suppose it's the fault of the external speaker they had, rather than the club itself. Most of the people probably thought they were there to learn some basics about 3D animation. [as I was] Instead, the presenter went like this:
"So if you click on this icon, [clicks on icon] you can do this [fiddles around with mouse, and changes colour of image. We squint to see what icon he clicked] and then this [does something else with another icon] and you can then... [by now he's given up on using verbs at all] after that you.... then you can..........."
Bleah................. at least I got some free software out of that........................
So when I saw the little display they had outside Canteen A, I was a bit apprehensive about the club, even though I saw free basic 3D courses for members. [thankfully, at the same time, they were hiring management committee members] As it is, I think their members need a bit of training in marketing skills.
I stood in front of a sign, just beside the booth, reading about the club benefits for members. The 3 people at the booth itself talk to each other about something.
I feign slight interest. They ignore me.
I decide to make myself more visible. [considering my bulk, this is not a hard thing to do] I walk to the front of the booth, in front of the 3 members.
They continue talking among themselves.
Hallo! I'm here! Me! Interested party here! Yoohoo! Look! I have cash! I'm ready to pay for membership!
I stand there for a good five minutes, before someone sees me. She comes over to talk to me, while the other 2 talk somemore. :s
I ask her, "What kind of courses does your club offer?"
Blank look. Maybe she didn't hear me correctly.
"What kind of activities does your club do?"
She thinks a while, then she reaches for a copy of the exact same piece of paper I was reading a couple of minutes back, and shows it to me. NB. Think I cannot read ah?
I ask a few more perfunctory questions about the club, and its courses, but I want a flyer.
"Sorry, we have no flyers."
No flyers? How about a copy of that paper you're holding there?
"Er, we don't have a copy right now...."
................ You do have a website, right? And I know you do, because you have it written on that very large orange banner hanging over your head over there.
"Er, ya, we have a website................ [why so reluctant to tell me your URL? You got porn stashed away in a link somewhere?] Maybe you can come back later in the afternoon when we have the flyers."
...................................... Wateva. See ya.
Maybe I'm being unfair to them, or maybe they're too new, but [sense of campus loyalty seeping in here] I don't think Bizad would have ever pulled some kind publicity flop like that lor...... And so much more the waste, because 3D animation is gaining in popularity in Singapore.... and their club is doing so little for itself......
Ok, they need better management....................... [And I hope no one in that club reads this the wrong way and send their friends in the Computing Club, if there is one, after my blog. :p]
A few of my thoughts on the NTU campus:
- The new library I'm in now, directly above Canteen A, is one of the more better looking campus libraries I've seen around. :p Is there a current trend among the universities to compete for the better looking library? [the central library at NUS arts, after the renovation, was also stunning]
The interesting thing about the way it's been built is the half-circular design of the place. You walk in, and immediately you're standing above a half-moon valley, overlooking a whole prairie of computers, and people intent at work [or sleep, for some]
I walk to the 4th floor, along the moon, and through the windows on my left, I see the sea, [or more possibly, the Straits of Malacca] and what could possibly be Johor. It's definitely a better view than what NUS has to offer :S although most people here seem less interested in the view and more in their computer screens. Welcome to campus life.
And now, my current computer is at a window seat, though my view of Johor has been blocked by some very tall palm trees. Would almost feel like a beach, if not for the fact that I'm in an air-con library, and I have a pile of readings beside me. :s
- A few not so very nice words about their 3D club though...
NTU has a 3D animation club called NTU Siggraph, and usually Yenn and I would be interested, but I'm not too impressed by their management committee.
Erm, is it because the club is too new or something? Because I remember going for Imagereel, which was an exhibition of 3D animation, and not being very impressed with the way they organized the whole thing. Not to mention the commentators weren't too interesting, and Yenn wasn't impressed with the 3D shown, [too abstract and arty for her :p] so both of us overall weren't... well, impressed. :p
Then I went for another one they had at the library. Again, the speaker wasn't too interesting, though in this case, I suppose it's the fault of the external speaker they had, rather than the club itself. Most of the people probably thought they were there to learn some basics about 3D animation. [as I was] Instead, the presenter went like this:
"So if you click on this icon, [clicks on icon] you can do this [fiddles around with mouse, and changes colour of image. We squint to see what icon he clicked] and then this [does something else with another icon] and you can then... [by now he's given up on using verbs at all] after that you.... then you can..........."
Bleah................. at least I got some free software out of that........................
So when I saw the little display they had outside Canteen A, I was a bit apprehensive about the club, even though I saw free basic 3D courses for members. [thankfully, at the same time, they were hiring management committee members] As it is, I think their members need a bit of training in marketing skills.
I stood in front of a sign, just beside the booth, reading about the club benefits for members. The 3 people at the booth itself talk to each other about something.
I feign slight interest. They ignore me.
I decide to make myself more visible. [considering my bulk, this is not a hard thing to do] I walk to the front of the booth, in front of the 3 members.
They continue talking among themselves.
Hallo! I'm here! Me! Interested party here! Yoohoo! Look! I have cash! I'm ready to pay for membership!
I stand there for a good five minutes, before someone sees me. She comes over to talk to me, while the other 2 talk somemore. :s
I ask her, "What kind of courses does your club offer?"
Blank look. Maybe she didn't hear me correctly.
"What kind of activities does your club do?"
She thinks a while, then she reaches for a copy of the exact same piece of paper I was reading a couple of minutes back, and shows it to me. NB. Think I cannot read ah?
I ask a few more perfunctory questions about the club, and its courses, but I want a flyer.
"Sorry, we have no flyers."
No flyers? How about a copy of that paper you're holding there?
"Er, we don't have a copy right now...."
................ You do have a website, right? And I know you do, because you have it written on that very large orange banner hanging over your head over there.
"Er, ya, we have a website................ [why so reluctant to tell me your URL? You got porn stashed away in a link somewhere?] Maybe you can come back later in the afternoon when we have the flyers."
...................................... Wateva. See ya.
Maybe I'm being unfair to them, or maybe they're too new, but [sense of campus loyalty seeping in here] I don't think Bizad would have ever pulled some kind publicity flop like that lor...... And so much more the waste, because 3D animation is gaining in popularity in Singapore.... and their club is doing so little for itself......
Ok, they need better management....................... [And I hope no one in that club reads this the wrong way and send their friends in the Computing Club, if there is one, after my blog. :p]
Sunday, July 31, 2005
Hypothesis: When a group of girls go shopping, the girl that already knows exactly what she wants to buy and how much she is willing to pay for it will NOT find what she wants, but the girls who are just there to tag along will end up buying all sorts of things they didn't intend to buy.
Scenario: Group of 4 girls go shopping. One girl, henceforth known as Object Aki is about to break the pair of heels she is walking in, and desperately needs new pair of sandals. Other test variables, Quet, Candle and Yenn tag along.
The Object and Variables make their way to the [semi] controlled test environment, henceforth referred to as 'Far East' to look for a new pair of shoes for Object Aki.
After a couple of hours of shopping, Object Aki is unable to find decent shoes at reasonable prices, while Variable Yenn has bought 2 new items, a beige shoulder bag [at sale price somemore!!! Blardy fark!] and a new pair of shoes. While Object Aki hobbles along, praying that either her feet or her heels don't give out before she finds a new pair of shoes.
Conclusion: HYPOTHESIS PROVEN
Not only that, but just after I bought the new sandals, really, just the second after I bought them, I stood up and immediately felt a paralysing cramp in my 2nd toe on my right foot. And even after Quet attempted to massage it, it still remained stubbornly cramped and out of line with all the other tootsies on my foot.
Finally, after it uncramped itself, and i was able to walk again, I developed a sore blister on my left foot from where it rubbed against the unfamiliar strap. (^^!)
Next conclusion: NOT ONE OF MY BETTER SHOPPING DAYS
Scenario: Group of 4 girls go shopping. One girl, henceforth known as Object Aki is about to break the pair of heels she is walking in, and desperately needs new pair of sandals. Other test variables, Quet, Candle and Yenn tag along.
The Object and Variables make their way to the [semi] controlled test environment, henceforth referred to as 'Far East' to look for a new pair of shoes for Object Aki.
After a couple of hours of shopping, Object Aki is unable to find decent shoes at reasonable prices, while Variable Yenn has bought 2 new items, a beige shoulder bag [at sale price somemore!!! Blardy fark!] and a new pair of shoes. While Object Aki hobbles along, praying that either her feet or her heels don't give out before she finds a new pair of shoes.
Conclusion: HYPOTHESIS PROVEN
Not only that, but just after I bought the new sandals, really, just the second after I bought them, I stood up and immediately felt a paralysing cramp in my 2nd toe on my right foot. And even after Quet attempted to massage it, it still remained stubbornly cramped and out of line with all the other tootsies on my foot.
Finally, after it uncramped itself, and i was able to walk again, I developed a sore blister on my left foot from where it rubbed against the unfamiliar strap. (^^!)
Next conclusion: NOT ONE OF MY BETTER SHOPPING DAYS
Who's seen the new NDP song over the MRT screens?
Well, who's been irritated by the incessant playing of the same few lines of the NDP song over the MRT screens?
Ok I saw more hands rise then...
Anyway, here's an alternate take on the NDP MTV, link found on mrbrown.com and originally done by Cloudywind:
National Day MTV
Well, who's been irritated by the incessant playing of the same few lines of the NDP song over the MRT screens?
Ok I saw more hands rise then...
Anyway, here's an alternate take on the NDP MTV, link found on mrbrown.com and originally done by Cloudywind:
National Day MTV
Thursday, July 28, 2005
After staying in hall for 2 nights, I went back home on Tues to get something from my house. My whole family was at home, and naturally my parents were surprised to see me home already, thinking I was already dying of homesickness, or I had forgotten other essentials. After I had finally explained to them everything, my bro stuck his head out from the computer, and asked me,
"Jie, where did you go?"
"I came from my hostel what."
"Ah? You mean you weren't staying at home for the past few nights?"
PENG DAO. BISH. FAINT. I stay away from home for TWO NIGHTS and my own brother doesn't even notice I'm gone......... That's my family for you.............. *sits moodily in one corner*
"Jie, where did you go?"
"I came from my hostel what."
"Ah? You mean you weren't staying at home for the past few nights?"
PENG DAO. BISH. FAINT. I stay away from home for TWO NIGHTS and my own brother doesn't even notice I'm gone......... That's my family for you.............. *sits moodily in one corner*
[I'm loathe to talk more about NIE or Moe or NTU, so here's something unrelated to education. For education matters, go to Miseducators]
So Yenn and I have received no phone call from our Japanese sensei, which means that we most probably have passed our latest Jap test and are on fully on our way to Level 3. :D Yokatta ne....
In the spirit of this newfound realization therefore, I present to you, some simple cheers we learned in school, translated [albeit very brokenly] into Jap. [This is probably guaranteed to confuse the heck out of the other faculties] Guess what they are:
[note: The cheers can be used in any context for any organization, but because I learned them in Bizad, I have therefore written them that way. Replace the 'Bizad' with whatever school you come from]
Bizad no onna wa kirei yo!
Ichi ni san yon [X2]
Bizad no otoka wa hansamu ne!
Ichi ni san yon [X2]
Watashi wa Bizad, watashi wa ii! [X2]
Uma ga nai [X4]
Oh.... Bizad!
Bizad wa ichiban to iimasu
Anta shinjinai, zannen yo!
Nani watashi hanasu, anta wa hanasu [X2]
[there's more to this cheer, but for my limited abilities, I could only translate the 1st stanza]
Created in a mood of boh-liaoness while walking from LT to LT....... :p
So Yenn and I have received no phone call from our Japanese sensei, which means that we most probably have passed our latest Jap test and are on fully on our way to Level 3. :D Yokatta ne....
In the spirit of this newfound realization therefore, I present to you, some simple cheers we learned in school, translated [albeit very brokenly] into Jap. [This is probably guaranteed to confuse the heck out of the other faculties] Guess what they are:
[note: The cheers can be used in any context for any organization, but because I learned them in Bizad, I have therefore written them that way. Replace the 'Bizad' with whatever school you come from]
Bizad no onna wa kirei yo!
Ichi ni san yon [X2]
Bizad no otoka wa hansamu ne!
Ichi ni san yon [X2]
Watashi wa Bizad, watashi wa ii! [X2]
Uma ga nai [X4]
Oh.... Bizad!
Bizad wa ichiban to iimasu
Anta shinjinai, zannen yo!
Nani watashi hanasu, anta wa hanasu [X2]
[there's more to this cheer, but for my limited abilities, I could only translate the 1st stanza]
Created in a mood of boh-liaoness while walking from LT to LT....... :p
Wednesday, July 27, 2005
This post comes to you courtesy of the com lab at Nie....
Yes, Yenn and I have successfully assimilated ourselves into campus, and are now quite settled in our room. [somewhat. the climbing of 6 floors to our room takes some getting used to, and there are no lifts.]
The first week of school is still super slack, with us running around campus, figuring out shuttle bus schedules, [I took the wrong bus once from Boon Lay to Nie, and ended up very, very far from my hall in the middle of the night. Took me a while to walk back, hoping I would not get murdererd/robbed/raped] canteens with good food, [Canteen A is good, but the queues are murder] and the overall map of the campus. [we're not getting as lost anymore]
But I still have no Internet access in my room. :S Which is why I'm now in the library waiting for my turn at the helpdesk, so that I can figure out how to get meself one of them cool wireless cards so that my old laptop will be hooked up to the Net.
I. Miss. The. Net. Period.
Meanwhile, today, the day is spent lazily lounging around, since the whole campus is out for Flag Day and we don't have to go. Nyah nyah nyah. :p Which only leaves me to go back to Bishan towards the evening for my tuition. :S
I'll try to post up more exploits later, when I get my card. Meanwhile, you may, er, have to contend yourself with a very boring blog for a while.... Sumimasen.......
Yes, Yenn and I have successfully assimilated ourselves into campus, and are now quite settled in our room. [somewhat. the climbing of 6 floors to our room takes some getting used to, and there are no lifts.]
The first week of school is still super slack, with us running around campus, figuring out shuttle bus schedules, [I took the wrong bus once from Boon Lay to Nie, and ended up very, very far from my hall in the middle of the night. Took me a while to walk back, hoping I would not get murdererd/robbed/raped] canteens with good food, [Canteen A is good, but the queues are murder] and the overall map of the campus. [we're not getting as lost anymore]
But I still have no Internet access in my room. :S Which is why I'm now in the library waiting for my turn at the helpdesk, so that I can figure out how to get meself one of them cool wireless cards so that my old laptop will be hooked up to the Net.
I. Miss. The. Net. Period.
Meanwhile, today, the day is spent lazily lounging around, since the whole campus is out for Flag Day and we don't have to go. Nyah nyah nyah. :p Which only leaves me to go back to Bishan towards the evening for my tuition. :S
I'll try to post up more exploits later, when I get my card. Meanwhile, you may, er, have to contend yourself with a very boring blog for a while.... Sumimasen.......
Tuesday, July 19, 2005
Nihongo anyone?
As a form of light entertainment, let me regale you with the stories that happen during Jap lessons with Yen.
Part of our textbook includes a sample dialogue between 2 or more parties, and sometimes, Sensei will tell us to pair up, and practice the dialogue with each other. And Yen and I always pair up, to the most hilarious results.
For example, last week's lesson had the following dialogue: [entirely translated for your benefit] The background is Mira is getting transferred from Osaka to Tokyo, and the rest of the office is giving him a farewell party.
Yamada: Congratulations on your transfer!
Mira: Arigatou gozaimasu! [needs no translation, i think]
Kimura: Mira-san will become lonely when he goes to Tokyo. Even if you go, please don't forget Osaka.
Mira. Definitely not. Kimura-san, when you are free, please come to Tokyo to play!
Santos: When you come to Osaka, please call! We'll have a drink together!
Mira: Yes, definitely. Everyone, I'm really grateful for all you have done.
Satou: Take care of yourself. Ganbatte!
Mira: Yes, I will! Everyone, please take care of yourself!
Then Yenn and I take over. I am now the one being transferred, and Yenn is seeing me off.
Yenn: Congratulations on your transfer!
Me: Thanks!
Yenn: You will become lonely when you go to Europe. If you find a man over there, please don't forget your friends in Singapore.
Me: Er, yea. Yenn-san, when you have lots of money, please come to Europe for a holiday.
Yenn: When you return to Singapore, please call me. We'll have a lot of drink together. [the insinuation here is obviously alcoholic]
Me: Oh, definitely! Yenn-san, I'm really grateful for all you have done.
Yenn: Take care of yourself! please take care of yourself!
Me: Yes, ganbatte. please take care of yourself!
After this, Yenn and I change. Now Yenn is the one who's being transferred.
Me: Congrats on your transfer!
Yenn: Arigatou Gozaimasu.
Me: You will become lonely when you go to Africa. [?!!] THere is a lot of AIDS over there, so you must be careful! When you go there, please don't forget Singapore!
Yenn: [drops her face after hearing Africa] Er...... Definitely! Aki-san, when you are free and have no man, please come to Africa to play!
Me: [trying to supress wild laughter] If you come back to Singapore, please call! We'll go for a drink together!
Yenn: Yes, definitely!
[and so on, and so on]
Well, obviously, our versions weren't the ones we eventually read out to the class....... Though many were much amused to hear that Yenn was getting transferred to Africa.... hehehe...
Saturday, July 16, 2005
Another spring cleaning.... Groan
Yup, looking around at the masses of 'things' and the colonies of dustballs that were created in my room, I decided to unleash a holy act of god and sweep them all clean from my room.
After cleaning up the usual obvious mess on the floors and tables, I decided to start on a part of my room that had never been touched before. This was a particular shelf on my gray cabinet that I used for stationery and old toys, and I wanted to clear it out to make more space for my expanding collection of manga and books.
Good gravy god. What did I unleash?
For starters, you have to know one thing about my parents. Other parents bought home toys and stuff for their kids. My parents bought me stationery, because one, it was 'free' from the office, and two, because for practicality's sake, stationery was the one thing I, being in school, was always in need of.
So from Primary to Secondary to JC, my stationery needs were all fulfilled by my parents, except for some emergencies where I had to buy pens from the co-op, or where I wanted cute coloured pens. By the time I got to NUS, I received a lot of free stationery from all the orientation activities I was involved in, and I never had to buy stationery then.
So all my stationery just laid there, in that one shelf, until today, when I decided to clear it out. I wanted to reuse the stationery in nie, since a lot of it was unused and I didn't like to throw away good stuff.
And then I realised.......... Just how much stationery I had. Which was enough for me, Yenn, and possibly my entire hostel block. (^^!)
I uncovered, during my clearing-out:
- Almost 20-30 pens
- About 40 pencils [included in this number are 2 whole unopened boxes of 2Bs]
- About 15 highlighters [i think] of at least 3 different colours
- 1 box of binder clips
- 1 box of paper clips
- 3 packets of index tabs [those coloured stickers you paste on your pages]
And that was just the normal stationery stuff. (^^!) Here are some of the more 'exotic' stuff I found:
- Thin rolls of heavy duty tape
- A metre of raffia string
- A box of coloured chalk [some art set, long time ago]
- 15 small paintbrushes
- A [working] torchlight
- 2 leather [possibly fake] name card holders
- A old foundation holder [!!]
- 7 mousepads [and unfortunately, only one laptop]
- One old Magna Doodle and Ghost Writer set [anyone still remembers what they are??]
- One stack of old computer paper. The kind for dot matrix printers, with the perforated holes by the side
And also boxes and boxes of nice pens. You know, the kind that comes with its own holder and looks really expensive, like Parker? I think I counted almost 10 of those. (^^!)
So now, I'm packing whatever I can into a toolbox [yup, I have one of those too] to bring along to my hostel. I figure, with the amount of stationery, I could probably set up a sideline selling stationery to the rest of the block. hahahaha...
Friday, July 15, 2005
Way cool, the miseducators blog got tomorrowed! :)
I thought something was up when I saw 6 comments on my latest entry........
But aside from the pompous glee [my blog got tomorrowed! mwahahahahaha!] it was great to see the couple of comments and emails I got from other people, especially those who had been teaching, or those who were able to enter teaching.
And this is the purpose for which I created the Miseducators blog. So that I could 1] let off steam about my work. Haha, who doesn't? and 2] to also garner responses from others in teaching and 3] to let others know about the true face of teaching. [you think teachers just stand up in front of a class and talk? It's not that simple!]
So I sincerely hope I'll be able to keep this blog going. :) If nothing else, it'll become a form of occupational therapy for me.......
I thought something was up when I saw 6 comments on my latest entry........
But aside from the pompous glee [my blog got tomorrowed! mwahahahahaha!] it was great to see the couple of comments and emails I got from other people, especially those who had been teaching, or those who were able to enter teaching.
And this is the purpose for which I created the Miseducators blog. So that I could 1] let off steam about my work. Haha, who doesn't? and 2] to also garner responses from others in teaching and 3] to let others know about the true face of teaching. [you think teachers just stand up in front of a class and talk? It's not that simple!]
So I sincerely hope I'll be able to keep this blog going. :) If nothing else, it'll become a form of occupational therapy for me.......
Cosfest 2005 - 10th July at Downtown East
So yea I know the Cosfest pics are late.... :P I got a Photoshop fit and tried to do some layouts on them.
Unfortunately, considering I brought home 64 photos from the Cosfest... It's taking a while. (^^!) Gomennasai......
Anyway, here are some of those I've done:
And a panoramic shot of everyone on stage:
Yea, THAT'S how many people turned up in costume.
For more, click on this very obvious link.
And it was a GREAT cosplay! There were tons of people turning up in costume, of AMAZING quality and design from anime, manga, games and J-rock! Not to mention the various artists' groups hawking their wares, like doujinshi [fanart] merchandise, like postcards, badges, and some really amazing posters. It was the closest anyone in Singapore could ever get to an Anime Convention. :) :) :)
I'll continue editing the photos and uploading them, so stay tuned hor! [i'll get there, i'll get there......]
Monday, July 11, 2005
My mentor teacher was on MC on Friday.
This Monday, she was also on MC and rumours I heard say that she may be on MC the entire week. Not to mention, my 2nd mentor was also sick.
So I had to relief 2 teachers' classes. And help my mentor mark some work after school.
I may just have been inadvertantly plunged into full-scale teaching.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Ok, I'm done :p
But it was hard today, since I got another throat infection [my old lao mao ping, which I may have accidentally passed to Yenn. Oops] and I could barely raise my voice. Not to mention the boys today were havock.
I ended up buying a whistle from the Neko Pri. Bookshop to compensate for this. (^!) Which kinda worked, but was no substitute for good old fashioned ranting when scoldings had to be done.
Now I'm just drinking all the hot water and honey lime I can.
*Groan* Sore throats. A teacher's worse ailment. Ganbatte, yenn-san...
This Monday, she was also on MC and rumours I heard say that she may be on MC the entire week. Not to mention, my 2nd mentor was also sick.
So I had to relief 2 teachers' classes. And help my mentor mark some work after school.
I may just have been inadvertantly plunged into full-scale teaching.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Ok, I'm done :p
But it was hard today, since I got another throat infection [my old lao mao ping, which I may have accidentally passed to Yenn. Oops] and I could barely raise my voice. Not to mention the boys today were havock.
I ended up buying a whistle from the Neko Pri. Bookshop to compensate for this. (^!) Which kinda worked, but was no substitute for good old fashioned ranting when scoldings had to be done.
Now I'm just drinking all the hot water and honey lime I can.
*Groan* Sore throats. A teacher's worse ailment. Ganbatte, yenn-san...
Sunday, July 10, 2005
Goodmeat: IT'S NOT SPELT WEIFUN!!!! ARGH!!! THE TRAVESTY OF IT!!!
Who bought the 8 Days with the Fantastic Four on the cover?
If you did, flip to the inside back cover, where there's an ad for Essence, a laundry detergent.
The ad shows, supposedly, a day in the life of a woman.
9am: Office. Woman is dressed in office wear, carrying a briefcase
1pm: Shopping. Woman is wearing black dress and carrying bags of shopping.
6pm: Yoga class. Here's where the layout gets a bit conky. A woman in a meditative lotus-whatever pose is meditating at the bottom of the picture.
10pm: Beauty sleep. And the woman is wearing a slinky bright red dress?
Here's why.
At 8pm, it's Dinner date with Ken.
And the corresponding picture has her dressed in a blue and white striped bra and panty set.
Now if that's what she's wearing for her dinner date with the guy, I really wonder what it is they'll be eating for dinner......... (^^!)
We now return to normal blogging...............
On Friday night, the gals decided there wasn't anything chronically wrong with the DF when it came to relationships. *phew*
His only problem is that he's dumb. *huh?*
Let's post a question here to those who read my blog and who do not know me in real life.
Your boyfriend/girlfriend hardly calls you out. Doesn't call you on the phone to talk. Doesn't meet up unless you call him, except for some exceptions. Doesn't call you sweet nothings.
Is he a bad boyfriend?
He doesn't smoke. He doesn't drink or club. [which in my case, could constitute something of a slight disadvantage] He doesn't ogle other girls. He's a well-mannered, decent guy.
Except that he's not except a diehard romantic here. (^^!) Whoever coined the term 'stocism' certainly had him in mind.
So is he a bad boyfriend?
Ok, 'bad' is too strong a word.
Can we say that this guy 'cannot make it'?
Or is it that he doesn't know how to behave in a relationship, having never been in one?
Or is it now that he's gotten the goods, he doesn't need to put in the effort to keep the relationship going?
Or is he just, as Candle put it, just plain dumb? (^^!)
Personally, I'm inclined to go with the last one. :p
When I met up with him last night, I was talking to him about it, and what my friends said.
He says guys are just like that, and that all his friends are like that.
I said, not the guys my girlfriends know, apparently, and just how large is your sample size of friends anyway?
He admitted that it was one attached guy who acted like that towards his girlfriend, and that most of his other friends were single. *duh* To which I replied, there's a lesson for you here. (^^!)
Hmph. Hmph hmph hmph.
On the bright side though, if you were one of those who said that he just doesn't know how to behave in a relationship, I can only say, he and I, we're both learning.
And yea, he's learning. >)
Who bought the 8 Days with the Fantastic Four on the cover?
If you did, flip to the inside back cover, where there's an ad for Essence, a laundry detergent.
The ad shows, supposedly, a day in the life of a woman.
9am: Office. Woman is dressed in office wear, carrying a briefcase
1pm: Shopping. Woman is wearing black dress and carrying bags of shopping.
6pm: Yoga class. Here's where the layout gets a bit conky. A woman in a meditative lotus-whatever pose is meditating at the bottom of the picture.
10pm: Beauty sleep. And the woman is wearing a slinky bright red dress?
Here's why.
At 8pm, it's Dinner date with Ken.
And the corresponding picture has her dressed in a blue and white striped bra and panty set.
Now if that's what she's wearing for her dinner date with the guy, I really wonder what it is they'll be eating for dinner......... (^^!)
We now return to normal blogging...............
On Friday night, the gals decided there wasn't anything chronically wrong with the DF when it came to relationships. *phew*
His only problem is that he's dumb. *huh?*
Let's post a question here to those who read my blog and who do not know me in real life.
Your boyfriend/girlfriend hardly calls you out. Doesn't call you on the phone to talk. Doesn't meet up unless you call him, except for some exceptions. Doesn't call you sweet nothings.
Is he a bad boyfriend?
He doesn't smoke. He doesn't drink or club. [which in my case, could constitute something of a slight disadvantage] He doesn't ogle other girls. He's a well-mannered, decent guy.
Except that he's not except a diehard romantic here. (^^!) Whoever coined the term 'stocism' certainly had him in mind.
So is he a bad boyfriend?
Ok, 'bad' is too strong a word.
Can we say that this guy 'cannot make it'?
Or is it that he doesn't know how to behave in a relationship, having never been in one?
Or is it now that he's gotten the goods, he doesn't need to put in the effort to keep the relationship going?
Or is he just, as Candle put it, just plain dumb? (^^!)
Personally, I'm inclined to go with the last one. :p
When I met up with him last night, I was talking to him about it, and what my friends said.
He says guys are just like that, and that all his friends are like that.
I said, not the guys my girlfriends know, apparently, and just how large is your sample size of friends anyway?
He admitted that it was one attached guy who acted like that towards his girlfriend, and that most of his other friends were single. *duh* To which I replied, there's a lesson for you here. (^^!)
Hmph. Hmph hmph hmph.
On the bright side though, if you were one of those who said that he just doesn't know how to behave in a relationship, I can only say, he and I, we're both learning.
And yea, he's learning. >)
Saturday, July 09, 2005
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"Did they come out right?"
"Don't worry, even if they didn't, I know Photoshop."
"Yea, that's what I was gonna say. Nowadays, you can do almost anything with Photoshop."
"Yea, so I'll fix it even if it doesn't."
And indeed, it didn't really turn out in the end. :( But others did. Like this one:
And this:
A more Morpheus-Like look, because I couldn't get the proper lighting. (^^!)
And this:
A bit blur, cos he kept moving. Darn!
And what I got in return:
And my favourite:
DREAM DANGEROUSLY. How cool is that??
And now can I go all otaku?
Of cos I can. It's my blog.
AAAAAAAAHHHHHNEILGAIMAN!!!!!!!!HE SIGNED MY BOOKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEIL GAIMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ok, otaku fit over. :)
"Did they come out right?"
"Don't worry, even if they didn't, I know Photoshop."
"Yea, that's what I was gonna say. Nowadays, you can do almost anything with Photoshop."
"Yea, so I'll fix it even if it doesn't."
And indeed, it didn't really turn out in the end. :( But others did. Like this one:
And this:
A more Morpheus-Like look, because I couldn't get the proper lighting. (^^!)
And this:
A bit blur, cos he kept moving. Darn!
And what I got in return:
And my favourite:
DREAM DANGEROUSLY. How cool is that??
And now can I go all otaku?
Of cos I can. It's my blog.
AAAAAAAAHHHHHNEILGAIMAN!!!!!!!!HE SIGNED MY BOOKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEIL GAIMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ok, otaku fit over. :)
Indeed there has been a lot of dust gathering in this blog... (^^!) the tolls of working and blogging at the same time... *sigh* And of course the highlight of this one week being the chance to meet ONLY THE GREATEST COMIC WRITER OF ALL TIMES, MR NEIL GAIMAN HIMSELF in Kinokuniya. *mad giggly laughter*
The queues were insane by the time I managed to run down to Kino after work. When I first arrived up the escalator, I saw a bunch of people queueing already, near the foreign languages, so I followed the queue to find the end.
I walked past graphic novels.
I walked past the chinese comics.
I walked past some japanese comics before FINALLY i saw the end of it! And mind, I still had NOT seen the signing table itself!
That was at 3. I waited there with a good mystery novel, till I happened to meet Mega, who had skipped work halfway to come down. (^^!) Got her priorities right, she did. And together we queued till Slayer came as well.
And by this time, the queue had already stretched all the way to the Chinese books section. (^^!) No doubt about it, queueing IS the national pasttime. Especially for something they really, really want.
But at least...... I got my books signed....... *dreamy look*
And he's really nice in person? He'd take the time to say a few words to everyone, even though they kept rushing him for more signatures, and, and, he's really sweet, and, and,and a funny cliched thing, but he somehow seems bigger in real life? And almost Morpheus-like...
*Sigh*..................................
But damn to the Kaiser, who met him on TWO occassions and got a damn cool signature on one of his books. *hmph*
Already it's been my 2nd week at Neko Primary and I now only have 2 more weeks to go before going back into Nie. Has it been that fast? And I've already landed myself with a sore throat after ONE day of shouting at one particular class. Has anyone ever tried getting a class of 40 havocky boys to sit down and keep quiet? It's almost an impossible act...
Thankfully I have one thing in my mind keeping me sane: Which is the thought that I don't have to be in their class for much longer... mwahahaha... the advantages of a relief teacher means that you're usually only in their class for one day, so you don't have to care too much about trying to teach them. (^^!) I was pretty much just trying not to let TOO many of them run over me at once, while storing lessons for future usage in my mind...
Not fierce enough being one. Hmmm...
But for the time being... Must. Drink. Lots. Of. Water. *cough cough HACK!*
The queues were insane by the time I managed to run down to Kino after work. When I first arrived up the escalator, I saw a bunch of people queueing already, near the foreign languages, so I followed the queue to find the end.
I walked past graphic novels.
I walked past the chinese comics.
I walked past some japanese comics before FINALLY i saw the end of it! And mind, I still had NOT seen the signing table itself!
That was at 3. I waited there with a good mystery novel, till I happened to meet Mega, who had skipped work halfway to come down. (^^!) Got her priorities right, she did. And together we queued till Slayer came as well.
And by this time, the queue had already stretched all the way to the Chinese books section. (^^!) No doubt about it, queueing IS the national pasttime. Especially for something they really, really want.
But at least...... I got my books signed....... *dreamy look*
And he's really nice in person? He'd take the time to say a few words to everyone, even though they kept rushing him for more signatures, and, and, he's really sweet, and, and,and a funny cliched thing, but he somehow seems bigger in real life? And almost Morpheus-like...
*Sigh*..................................
But damn to the Kaiser, who met him on TWO occassions and got a damn cool signature on one of his books. *hmph*
Already it's been my 2nd week at Neko Primary and I now only have 2 more weeks to go before going back into Nie. Has it been that fast? And I've already landed myself with a sore throat after ONE day of shouting at one particular class. Has anyone ever tried getting a class of 40 havocky boys to sit down and keep quiet? It's almost an impossible act...
Thankfully I have one thing in my mind keeping me sane: Which is the thought that I don't have to be in their class for much longer... mwahahaha... the advantages of a relief teacher means that you're usually only in their class for one day, so you don't have to care too much about trying to teach them. (^^!) I was pretty much just trying not to let TOO many of them run over me at once, while storing lessons for future usage in my mind...
Not fierce enough being one. Hmmm...
But for the time being... Must. Drink. Lots. Of. Water. *cough cough HACK!*
Monday, July 04, 2005
Here's an interesting situation that arose when I paid a visit to a friend of my parents, known here as Aunty Mok.
Glancing at the 1001 knick knacks she had around her house, [she makes my room look spotless] I noticed a basket with some small, round, chocolatey-brown things inside. I was curious as to what they were, cos they looked like some strange species of truffles to me [I donno why truffles popped to mind] so I finally asked Aunty Mok what they were.
"Oh, they're mandarin oranges!"
"What?" Total disbelief.
"Mandarin oranges, from New Year!" She took out one of the 'oranges' from the basket and held it out for me to look at. Even at closer range, it didn't look any more 'orangey', and in fact, resembled more a chocolate muffin.
"Erm, from which New Year is that?"
Turns out that if you leave the oranges alone, in about 6 months, they'll turn totally brown all over, if you're lucky enough that they didn't grow fungus instead. Then, you can peel off the skin, and leave it in boiling red bean soup. The soup is supposed to taste fantastic after that. Even when she peeled off a piece of the skin, I could smell a strong, tangy orange smell coming from it.
Hm. Would be an interesting science experiment for decomposition and then Home Econs.................. :p
Glancing at the 1001 knick knacks she had around her house, [she makes my room look spotless] I noticed a basket with some small, round, chocolatey-brown things inside. I was curious as to what they were, cos they looked like some strange species of truffles to me [I donno why truffles popped to mind] so I finally asked Aunty Mok what they were.
"Oh, they're mandarin oranges!"
"What?" Total disbelief.
"Mandarin oranges, from New Year!" She took out one of the 'oranges' from the basket and held it out for me to look at. Even at closer range, it didn't look any more 'orangey', and in fact, resembled more a chocolate muffin.
"Erm, from which New Year is that?"
Turns out that if you leave the oranges alone, in about 6 months, they'll turn totally brown all over, if you're lucky enough that they didn't grow fungus instead. Then, you can peel off the skin, and leave it in boiling red bean soup. The soup is supposed to taste fantastic after that. Even when she peeled off a piece of the skin, I could smell a strong, tangy orange smell coming from it.
Hm. Would be an interesting science experiment for decomposition and then Home Econs.................. :p
Something is so wrong with my Firefox! *wails* Everytime I click on the icon, the browser doesn't load, but yet IE and MSN works... Small comfort........ *hmph*
So let me gloat: It's a Monday morning. I woke up at 10, because it's a SCHOOL holiday, and I'm getting PAID for all this.... WAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Kinda makes up for the rest of the school year where I have to wake up at 6... :p
It felt almost weird, rolling out of bed, looking at the time on my handphone, and thinking, "Hm, half the school day gone." when it was only 10 in the morning. I've almost got into the roll of things at school, and will [hopefully] be observing classes next week with 2 experienced teachers. Thankfully, both are upper primary teachers. [phew!]
The strange effect about this job is that I just don't miss DF anymore. *Collective Gasp!* Well, in a sense, yes. The moment I wake up, I'm off to the bathroom to get ready for school, and then in school, I'm too engrossed watching the kids or relief teaching [whatever little of it last week] to even think about him. After school, I come home for a while, and then I bathe and get ready for tuition. By the time my tuition ends, it's almost 10 at night.
Where got time to think about boyfriend? Hahaha... [though u can see the baggy effects of this lifestyle on my eyes. Dang...]
But in a way, it's good. This way, I don't spend all my time fantasizing, analysing, agonising over him anymore, and I have a healthy life outside of him and my incessant blogging.
But I still have time to think up this little entry one day:
A while back, while Turtle and I were on the bus heading to NIE, he handed me an issue of Today.
"There's an article in there, which you MIGHT disagree with, and call me sexist or something, but I think you should read it."
A pretty bad intro, if ever I heard one, but I read the article anyway.
The article was written by a woman who'd been blissfully married to her husband of cantremember how many years, and the article was about how she attributed the success of her marriage to subservience.
The author wrote that she'd once been a hot-blooded feminist [whether she burnt her bras or not, she didn't say] till she got married. She then discovered that the key to a successful marriage [or hers, anyway] was that women had to be submissive to their husbands, to listen to them, and to support their decisions and be loyal to them in all affairs. In return, their husbands would respond to this by being more responsible spouses, seeing the weight of decisions rested on them.
Of course, in writing so, she neglected the one crucial flaw of her argument: The formula is only successful if the men are responsible and caring husbands in the first place. Can you imagine 'serving' a guy who was a drunkard, a wife-abuser, or who had absolutely no respect for other human beings in the first place? Or even staying by his side and 'supporting' him till the end of time?
I think most women would do what I would do: Pack the bags, leave for Mother's with the kids, and give him a proverbial kick in the ass before I left.
It just goes to show how terribly varied relationships are all around us, I guess. No one formula can really apply to every couple, and trust me, I learned this the uncomfortable way. (^^!)
But the article did make me think of how relationships have evolved over a span of a few generations. Think about how it was during our grandparents' time. The practice of bethrothing your children from birth was still practiced then, and it was common if you didn't get to meet your future spouse till the day of your wedding. [the time till then spent fervently praying that he wasn't terribly deformed in one way or another]
But divorce was rare. Possibly one reason for that was that there were fewer lawyers then [duh] but also because men and women accepted that this was the guy they were going to have to live with, and so they may as well make it a smooth ride as much as they could. After all, if there was no way to get out of the marriage, then you had an onus to learn to live with each other as much as you could.
Who read the article in the ST [i donno when] about the couple with the record for the longest marriage in Singapore? They had been married in their tender teens in China, and the husband then went to Singapore to look for work, as a lot of men did then. His wife waited 5 years in China with her in-laws before he finally sent for her to join him there, and they lived in Singapore forever more. (0_0)
And I used to grumble if I didn't meet up with DF for a week or more..........
I digress. My point being it seems that our grandparents were willing to stick with each other as much as possible because the concept of divorce was not as known, or socially accepted then. [I speak mainly of Asians, btw, being unfamiliar with the history of divorce in Western countries] In our parents' generation, divorce became slightly more common, but divorce rates were still low.
[I have no official statistics to back up all these btw. They're all based on my general impresions, and of the people I see around]
Now? We've become affluent and independent enough, such that if ever hubby doesn't live up to your expectations, or if he leaves the toilet bowl seat up one too many times, it's off to the lawyers you go. Divorce has not only become cheaper, it's also more socially acceptable nowadays. What did the old mantra go? "Attached can break up, married can divorce"
Have we lost something in all this?
As a generation, we're probably more picky and more demanding in our relationships than either our parents or our grandparents. Our spouse/boyfriend has to be the ONE. He has to meet all the requirements in our own mental list we compiled since adolescent. He has to support the family. He has to be kind, understanding, listen to our views blah blah blah.
A few would probably think he has to be rich, or have nice teeth or something, but I shall not touch on those people. (^^!)
So what's the diff? People over time have always been looking for that one special someone. We're always on the lookout for the one special love, whether we recognise him or not on the first glance. If we think the guy doesn't fit, we chuck him, and start the hunt anew. Whether we are attached, engaged, or married.
"He wasn't the same man I married" Sound familiar?
But just how many people find love at first sight anyway? No relationship is totally perfect, even if they seem so on the surface. There are bound to be problems between 2 parties one way or another, or things about each other that drive you crazy.
Which is why maybe the keys for a successful relationship is not love, but rather the ability to settle conflicts amiably, to compromise, and to always have an open mind.
Even if you find the right man and you marry him, can you have any guarantee that he will remain like that for the rest of time? Maybe he will change. Maybe he will fall in love with some other woman. Maybe he'll find out he's gay. *peng* Should that happens, how willing are you to stick with the relationship? Or will you bail at the first signs of trouble?
[btw, the one thing I will NOT put up with is abuse. NO MAN has the right to abuse others, most of all his wife and kids, whether physically or verbally, and deserves to get his ass kicked big time]
I wonder whether our culture and our generation has become so used to the idea of getting what we want, that we are less unwilling to work it out over time. That we must have the man now, and that he must remain like that for the rest of his life. Hmm...
Ponderz..................
Btw you guys have to realise that the only reason I can write so detachedly about the whole thing is because I'm on the right phase of my menstrual cycle. :p Gimme a few more weeks and I could be writing about something else altogether...
So let me gloat: It's a Monday morning. I woke up at 10, because it's a SCHOOL holiday, and I'm getting PAID for all this.... WAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Kinda makes up for the rest of the school year where I have to wake up at 6... :p
It felt almost weird, rolling out of bed, looking at the time on my handphone, and thinking, "Hm, half the school day gone." when it was only 10 in the morning. I've almost got into the roll of things at school, and will [hopefully] be observing classes next week with 2 experienced teachers. Thankfully, both are upper primary teachers. [phew!]
The strange effect about this job is that I just don't miss DF anymore. *Collective Gasp!* Well, in a sense, yes. The moment I wake up, I'm off to the bathroom to get ready for school, and then in school, I'm too engrossed watching the kids or relief teaching [whatever little of it last week] to even think about him. After school, I come home for a while, and then I bathe and get ready for tuition. By the time my tuition ends, it's almost 10 at night.
Where got time to think about boyfriend? Hahaha... [though u can see the baggy effects of this lifestyle on my eyes. Dang...]
But in a way, it's good. This way, I don't spend all my time fantasizing, analysing, agonising over him anymore, and I have a healthy life outside of him and my incessant blogging.
But I still have time to think up this little entry one day:
What is love?
A while back, while Turtle and I were on the bus heading to NIE, he handed me an issue of Today.
"There's an article in there, which you MIGHT disagree with, and call me sexist or something, but I think you should read it."
A pretty bad intro, if ever I heard one, but I read the article anyway.
The article was written by a woman who'd been blissfully married to her husband of cantremember how many years, and the article was about how she attributed the success of her marriage to subservience.
The author wrote that she'd once been a hot-blooded feminist [whether she burnt her bras or not, she didn't say] till she got married. She then discovered that the key to a successful marriage [or hers, anyway] was that women had to be submissive to their husbands, to listen to them, and to support their decisions and be loyal to them in all affairs. In return, their husbands would respond to this by being more responsible spouses, seeing the weight of decisions rested on them.
Of course, in writing so, she neglected the one crucial flaw of her argument: The formula is only successful if the men are responsible and caring husbands in the first place. Can you imagine 'serving' a guy who was a drunkard, a wife-abuser, or who had absolutely no respect for other human beings in the first place? Or even staying by his side and 'supporting' him till the end of time?
I think most women would do what I would do: Pack the bags, leave for Mother's with the kids, and give him a proverbial kick in the ass before I left.
It just goes to show how terribly varied relationships are all around us, I guess. No one formula can really apply to every couple, and trust me, I learned this the uncomfortable way. (^^!)
But the article did make me think of how relationships have evolved over a span of a few generations. Think about how it was during our grandparents' time. The practice of bethrothing your children from birth was still practiced then, and it was common if you didn't get to meet your future spouse till the day of your wedding. [the time till then spent fervently praying that he wasn't terribly deformed in one way or another]
But divorce was rare. Possibly one reason for that was that there were fewer lawyers then [duh] but also because men and women accepted that this was the guy they were going to have to live with, and so they may as well make it a smooth ride as much as they could. After all, if there was no way to get out of the marriage, then you had an onus to learn to live with each other as much as you could.
Who read the article in the ST [i donno when] about the couple with the record for the longest marriage in Singapore? They had been married in their tender teens in China, and the husband then went to Singapore to look for work, as a lot of men did then. His wife waited 5 years in China with her in-laws before he finally sent for her to join him there, and they lived in Singapore forever more. (0_0)
And I used to grumble if I didn't meet up with DF for a week or more..........
I digress. My point being it seems that our grandparents were willing to stick with each other as much as possible because the concept of divorce was not as known, or socially accepted then. [I speak mainly of Asians, btw, being unfamiliar with the history of divorce in Western countries] In our parents' generation, divorce became slightly more common, but divorce rates were still low.
[I have no official statistics to back up all these btw. They're all based on my general impresions, and of the people I see around]
Now? We've become affluent and independent enough, such that if ever hubby doesn't live up to your expectations, or if he leaves the toilet bowl seat up one too many times, it's off to the lawyers you go. Divorce has not only become cheaper, it's also more socially acceptable nowadays. What did the old mantra go? "Attached can break up, married can divorce"
Have we lost something in all this?
As a generation, we're probably more picky and more demanding in our relationships than either our parents or our grandparents. Our spouse/boyfriend has to be the ONE. He has to meet all the requirements in our own mental list we compiled since adolescent. He has to support the family. He has to be kind, understanding, listen to our views blah blah blah.
A few would probably think he has to be rich, or have nice teeth or something, but I shall not touch on those people. (^^!)
So what's the diff? People over time have always been looking for that one special someone. We're always on the lookout for the one special love, whether we recognise him or not on the first glance. If we think the guy doesn't fit, we chuck him, and start the hunt anew. Whether we are attached, engaged, or married.
"He wasn't the same man I married" Sound familiar?
But just how many people find love at first sight anyway? No relationship is totally perfect, even if they seem so on the surface. There are bound to be problems between 2 parties one way or another, or things about each other that drive you crazy.
Which is why maybe the keys for a successful relationship is not love, but rather the ability to settle conflicts amiably, to compromise, and to always have an open mind.
Even if you find the right man and you marry him, can you have any guarantee that he will remain like that for the rest of time? Maybe he will change. Maybe he will fall in love with some other woman. Maybe he'll find out he's gay. *peng* Should that happens, how willing are you to stick with the relationship? Or will you bail at the first signs of trouble?
[btw, the one thing I will NOT put up with is abuse. NO MAN has the right to abuse others, most of all his wife and kids, whether physically or verbally, and deserves to get his ass kicked big time]
I wonder whether our culture and our generation has become so used to the idea of getting what we want, that we are less unwilling to work it out over time. That we must have the man now, and that he must remain like that for the rest of his life. Hmm...
Ponderz..................
Btw you guys have to realise that the only reason I can write so detachedly about the whole thing is because I'm on the right phase of my menstrual cycle. :p Gimme a few more weeks and I could be writing about something else altogether...
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